Often in a relationship, the woman surrenders herself to make her lover happy. She strives to do what he wants done, and then with time, she repeats this process to make her children happy. Part of that is her nesting instinct which is beautiful, but part of it is pressure brought to bear on her.
But when that pressure is brought to bear, she loses herself, no longer having her own identity and no longer growing as a woman. As much as she cares for her family and expresses her love in so many ways, she is lost and readily disillusioned with her life.
As my wife Anne put it, "It is a better relationship when there are two people in it and not one person and a nobody." To avoid this happening, she recommends that you "Make sure some of the decisions you make as a couple are what she wants and not compromises to please him."
As a woman, Anne recommends that "You don't compromise what is important to you just to please someone else." And "You must have your own interests and make some time for yourself. Maintain your own identity rather than only being someone's wife, someone's mother and someone's daughter.
"Two people in a relationship are equals, one is not less important than the other." This is excellent advice from a woman's perspective and a reminder to us men to be compassionate and respectful of our wives, and treat them as we do other important people, and as we treated them when we courted them, trying to win their hearts in marriage.
Dick
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