"I love you" are words that capture our hearts and uplift our spirits. Those words are beautiful in any language as they express one's deep feelings for another.
However, if "but" follows those first three magical words, the statement instead becomes a crass manipulation meant to get one person to do what the other person wants.
"I love you, but I can't stand it when you make us late. I love you, but your golf game is getting in the way of our other activities."
In those two examples both complaints are important and could be discussed without involving the magical words, "I love you." In a loving, communicative relationship, expressions of love and resolution of issues are vital, but each is separate from the other.
When you feel love for your partner, express it and express it often. No-one can ever hear those magnificent words often enough from someone they love. But be kind and loving enough to let those words stand on their merit, for if you do those words will then be taken far more seriously.
Dick
The title and subject of today's piece was taken from a wonderful book, "Don't Sweat The Small Stuff in Love," by Richard Carlson, Ph.D. and Kristine Carlson.
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