Love Is To Be Calm In The Midst Of An Emotional Storm

Life presents us with many difficult challenges, some of them heartbreaking or tragic. In the midst of crisis, it is the rare person who can remain calm, loving and reassuring, a pillar of compassionate strength. How can you be that person and find such strength?

By getting in touch with the strength that has always been within you. You can do this through meditation and deep breathing. The time to start is now when there is no crisis, as you develop and establish this process within yourself.

Each day or evening set aside some quiet time in which there are no distractions. Then lay down, which will unload your weight from your spine and then relax your muscles. Close your eyes and focus your mind on the now, this very instant.

For the moment, there is no past nor is there a future, there is only now. Inhale deeply through your nose and then exhale through your mouth and continue to repeat this process. Think of it as inhaling peace and relaxation and exhaling tension and suffering as you feel your abdomen rise up and down.

Don't let your mind wander, focus.

Your stress will slowly be released, which in itself is a very healthy thing to do. But when heartbreak or tragedy strike, you will still feel it just as others do, but you will have your internal strength to help you and you will reach that strength through this process.

That strength will calm you and help you to avoid compounding the hurt to make it much worse than it already is.

This is because you will be strong enough to stop the heartbreaking or tragic tape that otherwise will endlessly play in your mind, compounding the memories and heartache. It will also stop the "why me," and focus you on the "I can and must handle this."

This will help you keep yourself together and it is then you can be that pillar of compassionate strength others so desperately need you to be in their and your time of crisis.

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Note: This does not prevent you from receiving counseling or joining a support group if that is also what you need to do in coping with the severity of the problem.