When an intimate relationship ends, we of course will grieve over it but we must take control of our lives and at some point pursue a new love, or at least enjoy an active group of friends and interests or we leave ourselves to grieve indefinitely in a life that will become dark and lonely.
A woman I know has been divorced twice and lost her third husband for reasons of his own to a suicide several years ago. Understandably, the trauma from these lost loves, has made life difficult for her and this woman, a lovely person is a bright and capable college graduate, yet it is hard for her to make everyday decisions in her life.
She has suffered from anger and pain, and her sense of self-worth has fallen through the floor as she continues to question her role in these lost relationships. Analysis of our life experiences is a healthy thing but life moves on and at some point it leaves us behind if we live in the past.
This woman is multi-talented and has an engaging personality. But rather than pursue new interests, make new friends and seek a new love, she spends much of her time in front of a television set. She is allowing her deflated ego to lead her down a path of depression and she hopefully is receiving some professional help and will listen to those who offer her kind words of encouragement.
Life deals all of us some harsh and hurtful breaks, but at some point, we must resolve our issues as best we can and get on with our lives. When we can find the basis to smile again and to take a sincere and helpful interest in others, we allow our inner selves to guide us to wonderful new possibilities in a world of people seeking to share love and joy with us.
Dick
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