Would you like a secret to long love affair? If so, it is this:
Treat your lover as you did when you first fell in love. Do you remember how excited you both were in those early days? Do you recall all the love you put into your relationship and how you gave, while asking little or nothing in return?
Do you recall how uncritical and nonjudgmental you were? That magic may still be there awaiting you to come courting him or her again. And if you have children, so much the better for they too can add their own special magic to your relationship if you allow them to.
As you did when you were first courting, put some excitement in your voice when he or she calls. Do little favors for your lover. Offer a ton of hugs and kisses and kind words of praise. Be a compassionate and devoted listener, acknowledging what is said and unselfishly acting on what you hear. A little gift, a card or even a hand written note would also be greatly appreciated.
You were at your best when you first fell in love and did these things. Be at your best again. And who knows, maybe an even better person will emerge in you, but certainly one who can relight the spark that let the two of you originally fall in love.
Dick
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