People go into relationships with high expectations for that special other person. But invariably, that other person being human, often can't live up to all those expectations and the relationship either comes to an end or continues, battle after battle.
Instead, understand that other person by listening to them and observing their behavior. What do they like and dislike? What do they do well and don't do well? What are their hopes and dreams and what level of drive do they have to make them a reality? How kind and generous are they? What are their fears? What are their attributes?
Please don't make the mistake of so many others by thinking you are going to "change" that other person. For you don't have the power to do that. Nor would you want them to change you, for being human you too are not perfect. Accept this person for who he or she is and love them. Or decide you can't accept this person and part company as amicably as possible, especially if children are involved.
This person must have some attributes that attracted you. Focus on those attributes, be patient with their shortcomings and love them unconditionally, much as you would like to be loved. If you can do that, you are likely to have a wonderful, although not perfect, long term relationship, one that will bring you both love, happiness and personal satisfaction.
Dick
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