Four More Things Women Do To Drive Men Away

Many a loving woman without realizing it does a few simple things that often drive men away. Check this additional list and see if any of this applies to you:

1) Nagging. There are things that need to get done and perhaps were promised to be done, but persuasion and encouragement with positive reinforcement will go much farther than nagging to actually get things done.

2) Criticism. Many a woman sees her man's shortcomings and wants to "fix" them. But nobody likes criticism, which does little more than cause hurt feelings and we resent those who criticize us. Once again, persuasion and encouragement with positive reinforcement are the key.

3) Fear based thinking. This is extremely common among men and women, as nearly all of us were raised to be careful. In childhood, we were taught don't talk to strangers, don't run with scissors, look both ways before crossing the street, in a seemingly endless list of dangers that confronted us.

Women who express fear based thinking to their men often come across as insecure and desperate, as they worry about jobs, income, bill paying, protection of savings, etc. all reasonable concerns. He too has those same concerns but when you express your feelings could it be done in a constructive way, so as not to harm his self-esteem, and would allow the two of you to work together to address those concerns.

4) Lying. Truth is the foundation of every long-term relationship. In a problem that confronts men and women, nothing will destroy your relationship faster than deceit. It is far better to talk out your differences, however painful the problems may be than to lie about them and ultimately get caught.

And with time, you will get caught. Drugs, infidelities, fraud, theft whatever it is, the two of you are in this relationship together, and whatever your problems, you need to solve them together.

But if any of these things are part of your distant past, and disclosure would now only hurt the other party, weigh carefully whether to disclose them. If you regret what you did, this will leave you to bear the burden and heartache of your regrets alone.

If you can find a way to make amends, do make amends, as you attempt to salve your conscience but do recognize how much you have grown as a result of your mistakes and that you have evolved well beyond the person you were when you made those mistakes.

In summary, There isn't anyone, myself included who hasn't done something on this list, particularly Point No. 4, the lying, and now regrets it. Especially if it is Point No. 4, it will not be easy to correct, but it is correctable in some form if you weigh your approach and the consequences carefully. Do what you know in your heart is right.

Dick