Men, sometimes we thoughtlessly do things that drive women away from us. Please
look at this list and see if any of them apply to you:
!) A man who would rather be with his buddies or business associates instead of being with his wife and children. This is very common as many men prefer talking business, careers, sports, politics, cars and other topics rather than dealing with a woman's feelings and issues or spending time entertaining their children. By making this choice, the whole family loses, and it sets a terrible example for sons.
2) A man who doesn't help around the house or yard, leaving all of the homemaking responsibilities to his wife.
3) A husband who tells his wife she's fat and unattractive. This is extremely hurtful and destroys her confidence. Instead, learn to love her as she is or encourage her to take up calorie burning activities you can both enjoy doing together. In addition, treat her to a spa that teaches exercise and healthy eating and serves also as a getaway so she can relax and enjoy herself.
4) Lying. Truth is the foundation of every long-term relationship. In a problem
that confronts men and women, nothing will destroy your relationship faster than
deceit. It is far better to talk out your differences, however painful the
problems may be than to lie about them and ultimately get caught.
And
with time, you will get caught. Drugs, infidelities, fraud, theft whatever it
is, the two of you are in this relationship together, and whatever your
problems, you need to solve them together.
But if any of these things
are part of your distant past, and disclosure would now only hurt the other
party, weigh carefully whether to disclose them. If you regret what you did,
this will leave you to bear the burden and heartache of your regrets alone.
If you can find a way to make amends, do make amends, as you attempt to
salve your conscience but do recognize how much you have grown as a result of
your mistakes and that you have evolved well beyond the person you were when you
made those mistakes.
In summary, There isn't anyone, myself included who
hasn't done something on this list, particularly Point No. 4, the lying, and now
regrets it. Especially if it is Point No. 4, it will not be easy to correct,
but it is correctable in some form if you weigh your approach and the
consequences carefully. Do what you know in your heart is right.
Dick
Thank you to my wife Anne for suggesting the first three points.
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