Not until there are perfect people can two people have the perfect marriage, and if they are perfect people, they had better find each other. Anne and I have been married for nearly 48 years and this morning we got a little snippy over crowding each other at the kitchen sink preparing breakfast.
When we realized that was happening, we backed off, stopped the snippiness and reassigned who would do what. We then had a very nice breakfast together.
No matter who you marry, there will be times when one or both of you are cold and distant. There will be times when one or both of you say or do the wrong thing.
As you grow wiser with time and maturity, you will learn not to make a big thing out of these events, remembering that you love each other. You then forgive and move on.
For life will present you with far tougher issues. The death of loved ones, and perhaps such other ugly events as life threatening health illnesses or accidents, drug addiction, marital infidelity, job loss, endangered financial security or other matters that can overwhelm you.
Having the strength to confront these tougher issues will test your resolve as they bring all the heartache you can bear.
So instead of seeking the perfect marriage, build one based upon mutual love and respect, and whose foundation also includes compassionate communication and forgiveness and if you succeed you may find the happiness and fulfillment you are actually seeking.
Dick
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