It is hard for most of us to admit when we are in the wrong. Instead, we scramble to justify what we have said and done for our egos often can't accept the situation any other way.
You see it regularly when politicians or corporate leaders have done something wrong and refuse to admit it sometimes even attacking others who so much as question what they have done. But here is a lesson that may surprise you:
The healing begins when we admit when we are wrong. Others who are angry at us or who would dispute us begin to calm down.
Instead of attacking us further, they appreciate us making a sincere and humble apology, particularly as we then do our best to correct any harm we may have caused. And here is another lesson that may surprise you:
Often the thing we have done wrong is actually of no consequence in the long run, but instead was blown out of proportion in moments of emotion. Once that emotion is calmed by a sincere apology and acts of correction, the whole thing is soon forgotten as life moves on.
There are deeply hurtful acts that can damage or even end a marriage and they require extensive reconciliation. But most wrongful acts can be categorized as thoughtless or rude and can quickly begin to be resolved with a sincere apology and a heartfelt change in behavior.
Dick
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